I used to believe that being a good person was enough for everything in life, enough in school, enough in my career, and certainly enough in all my relationships. But I understand now that being good is just the minimum of where our potential reaches. We don’t want a minimum wage salary in our careers, nor do we seek a minimum lifestyle. We always want the most out of what life has to offer, but it’s a process.
I recently read a daily devotional that a friend shared with me about having “level 8” relationships, whereas we want to get to ten as close as possible. And I expressed to her that I wish I had a closer deeper relationship with her and a couple of other friends because I call them my “sisters” but I don’t have that bond where I can share my deepest thoughts or feelings. Then it hit the both of us, we both needed to make the time and effort to process a level 8 relationship. The process is what was lacking in our relationship. Any time I here the term ‘Process’ I think of a receipe. Not only do we need the right receipies but we need the time and effort and patient to process the perfect outcome.
So where do we go from here now that we have all these relationships with friends, family, coworkers and partners?
Before we can begin to trust the process, we have to start the process and it takes small steps everyday.
Speaking for myself, I have so many relationships that need more work. And now that I am dating again, I want a level Ten relationship. So I’m trusting the process in getting to know my future partner and allowing my partner to know the raw me so it makes the process easier for the both of us. No sugar coating, No walls, No tricks. To know me is to love me and to fall in love is to accept a person’s entire being. I’m embracing the process as I learn from my past. The young woman in my past relationship was being a good girl and that wasn’t enough! My partner needed more from me and in return I needed more from him. But because I wanted to Process myself in a long term relationship as a “good girl” I received a relationship that was “good” but not Great.
Trusting the Process is easy some days and hard on other days, but everyday it’s necessary for any growth.
Trust the Process. Embrace the Process. Fall in Love with yourself during the Process.